Back to the Basics

I’ve been single for over two years now. Having already been in two relationships, I learned the hard way of how to do it right. Personally, I’m having the time of my life, and I’m single too! Is that even possible in today’s culture? I believe it is. Although it took a while, I finally came to the point in my life where I realized I’m not a whole person. (Talk about a humbling experience) I realized that God wants to bless me with an amazing woman of God, but He’s not going to do that until I take the time to prepare myself for her. Why should I expect God to give me the best when I won’t even take the time to make sure I’m at my best? I have a friend (who shall remain nameless) but she is always giving me advice about who I should date. After ignoring all of her advice, she finally asked me why I’m not interested in any of them. This is what I said; “It’s not that I don’t have the desire to be in a relationship and it’s not that I’m not interested in any of the girls you’ve mentioned to me, but I realize that if I start a relationship with any of them right now, they’re not going to get the ‘best Joe’, they’re gonna get the Joe who is still in the preparation season of his life and that’s not fair to her.”

If you think I don’t want to be in a relationship right now then you’re crazy! Of course I want to be in one, but I also realize the importance of doing things right, and if I want to do things right it’s gonna take time. It’s going to require a lot of patience! I believe every girl deserves to be a with a boy who is complete in the Lord, knows what he wants in life, and knows how he’s gonna get there. I want to be faithful with what the Lord’s blessed me with now so that when it comes time for Him to bless me with a wife, He’ll trust me.  

I’m completely content with where the Lord has me and I couldn’t be happier. I also know that I’m on the right path of becoming a whole person. How do I know that? I know I’m on the right path because of the peace in my spirit. There’s truly no greater feeling than to wake up every day and know that you’re in the will of God. As for now, I need to forget what’s behind me and keep moving forward. The Lord has put so many things on my plate and my job now is to remain humble, work hard, and continue to be His servant. I’ll let Him take care of my relationships status. 

“You are ready to date when you don’t need to. If you feel that you “need” a date in order to be complete or fulfilled personally, you are not ready for dating. Need involves demand and implies that there is something lacking in life. The opposite of need is choice, which allows for a decision. When you regard dating as a matter of choice rather than necessity, you are ready. It is a matter of your ability to be happy and content whether you are with someone else or not.” - Myles Munroe