Waiting and Dating II
I’ve been single for over two years now. Having already been in two relationships, I learned the hard way of how to do it right. Personally, I’m having the time of my life, and I’m single too! Is that even possible in today’s culture? I believe it is. Although it took a while, I finally came to the point in my life where I realized I’m not a whole person. (Talk about a humbling experience) I realized that God wants to bless me with an amazing woman of God, but He’s not going to do that until I take the time to prepare myself for her. Why should I expect God to give me the best when I won’t even take the time to make sure I’m at my best? I have a friend (who shall remain nameless) but she is always giving me advice about who I should date. After ignoring all of her advice, she finally asked me why I’m not interested in any of them. This is what I said; “It’s not that I don’t have the desire to be in a relationship and it’s not that I’m not interested in any of the girls you’ve mentioned to me, but I realize that if I start a relationship with any of them right now, they’re not going to get the ‘best Joe’, they’re gonna get the Joe who is still in the preparation season of his life and that’s not fair to her.”
If you think I don’t want to be in a relationship right now then you’re crazy! Of course I want to be in one, but I also realize the importance of doing things right, and if I want to do things right it’s gonna take time. It’s going to require a lot of patience! I believe every girl deserves to be a with a boy who is complete in the Lord, knows what he wants in life, and knows how he’s gonna get there. I want to be faithful with what the Lord’s blessed me with now so that when it comes time for Him to bless me with a wife, He’ll trust me.
I’m completely content with where the Lord has me and I couldn’t be happier. I also know that I’m on the right path of becoming a whole person. How do I know that? I know I’m on the right path because of the peace in my spirit. There’s truly no greater feeling than to wake up every day and know that you’re in the will of God. As for now, I need to forget what’s behind me and keep moving forward. The Lord has put so many things on my plate and my job now is to remain humble, work hard, and continue to be His servant. I’ll let Him take care of my relationships status.
“You are ready to date when you don’t need to. If you feel that you “need” a date in order to be complete or fulfilled personally, you are not ready for dating. Need involves demand and implies that there is something lacking in life. The opposite of need is choice, which allows for a decision. When you regard dating as a matter of choice rather than necessity, you are ready. It is a matter of your ability to be happy and content whether you are with someone else or not.” – Myles Munroe
Mary Anne Feeney, 
Natalie, and 
Melissa Hammel are discussing. 
Melissa Hammel 4:28 pm on July 21, 2008 Permalink |
Amen brother!!! I have recently come to the exact same conclusion! You basically put my whole relationship philosophy into words! God’s gonna keep molding us and one day that person will come along and we’ll be ready…well, as ready as you can be for that sort of thing
Only God knows when that will be, but in the meantime, He’s got a lot of work to do on me!
Wow, I don’t even know how I stumbled onto this post. Well, glad to read your thoughts Mr. Garibay
-Melissa Hammel
Natalie 8:31 pm on July 27, 2008 Permalink |
Very true everything you have mentioned.
Without the peace of God in my life, I wouldn’t be able to do anything; not even move on from the past. To know what redemption is about, patience, unconditional love, responsibility with your relationship with God, and life its self takes a lot of work!
Is it easy?! WHO SAID IT WAS GOING TO BE?!?!!?!?!?
WHO SAID IT WAS GOING TO BE SHINING STARS, THE MOON, AND THE SKY?
HOLY CRAP! We need to recognize that we are not part of the culture, we need to really separate ourselves, and realize who we are, before we actually do what we have to do; even in relationships.
I don’t know it all, but by living one day at a time under his authority, keeping my life accountable, keeping it PURE, and REAL then, it’s just a matter of time when the right person comes.
God loves us A LOT (MUCHO MUCHO) and we need to understand in our minds, and hearts that God is not torturing us he’s molding us to be the best we can be. So, it’s time for us to learn to suck it up, and wait! IT’S WORTH IT! He even promises (1 Cor 2:9, Isaiah 55:8-9)
My best advice is, let God be God in your life. Give it completely to him. If you need healing, give it to him, and give yourself time; go hang with some good real friends, and eat some ice cream, or go hang out with some kids and remember how simple life can be. God is love, be consumed by his great love, get to know Him, immerse yourself in Him; then, you’ll be satisfied and have the fruits of the spirit. Before you know it, you’ll fall in love with that woman God made especially for you, only for you. Isn’t that freaking awesome!?@#
I think that is incredible, and blows my mind to think that God took the time to make specific people for us. He truly is the King of Kings, and Lord of Lords.
haha.. I love it!
Mary Anne Feeney 6:19 pm on July 30, 2008 Permalink |
Amen! That is awesome. I wish everybody could come to this realization, but no, there are so many people out there that are dating someone and thinking that person is going to fulfill and complete them, only to disappoint them! Only God can fulfill and complete us. So many times I think the right relationship comes along when we’re least looking for it. And reverse psychology doesn’t work on God… he knows the thoughts and the heart
Good post. Someday that awesome woman of God will read this and say, “wow, I’m glad he found this out before i came into his life!”