Back to the Basics

Relationships put a lot on the table. If handled correctly, it’ll be a wonderful experience. If abused or handled incorrectly, our hearts will experience pain that none of us want to go through. Regardless of the situation, I truly believe the outcome of both can end as a beautiful story.

The desire we have to be loved comes from Christ. We were made in His image. He knows everything we need and His love for us will never come up short in meeting our needs. The only problem is, it’s very easy for us to spend more time with that ’special somebody’ than it is with the Lord. Unfortunately, it happens quite often. I’m no expert in this, but when two people go their separate ways, you can tell how much of their relationship was being led by Christ and how much of it was being led by their emotions. 

A person’s true character will be revealed in the aftermath of the relationship, when everything they desired is no longer there. If their character changes, then obviously something was out of line. If it doesn’t, then everything was handeled wisey. So what out of line? Their relationship with Christ.

Desperate people will make desperate decisions. The only thing we should be desperate for is Christ. We are made complete in Him. He will give us the freedom to try and love somebody more than Him, but we won’t get the happily ever after ending that we want. Why will He give us the freedom to try it? Because He’ll let us make a mistake to realize that He will never let us love anybody more than Him.

When a relationships is handled correctly, it can be an amazing experience! Even if it doesn’t work out in the end, both people are still blessed and go their own way with nothing but respect for each other. The fruit that comes from a Christ centered relationship is amazing! The people around us are blessed, were blessed, and we inevitably find ourselves closer to Christ.  

When a relationship is handled incorrectly and doesn’t end the way we want it to, our hearts hurt. The pain comes from all of our mixed emotions in trying to figure out what went wrong. Our hearts have to be broken in order for it to be restored by the One who created it. We must realize this! If we don’t, we will make life very difficult when it doesn’t need to be that way. When the person we long to be with is no longer around or no longer wants to be with us, it hurts, a lot! I believe Christ feels the same pain when we choose to spend more time with that special somebody rather then putting Him first. He longs to have an intimate relationship with us. He longs for us to spend time with Him.

I believe being single is great! It’s one of the most beautiful gifts I have. The rest of my life is being shaped during this season. My devotional life, my finances, my attitudes, my education, and the list goes on! I so deeply cherish my relationship with Christ. I have everything I need.  

That’s the beauty of relationships. Either way, we eventually end up closer to the One that matters most.